A very frustrated woman called. She had been trying to get pregnant for more than 2 years with no luck. She was very upset and even burst into tears at one point while she told me what she has been going through. She was desperate to have the child she has wanted for as long as she can remember.
I asked her to tell me the whole story. It turned out that she was 27 years old and has never missed a single menstrual cycle since she started her period at age 14. She had been having unprotected sex for the past 2 years and has never gotten pregnant.
She had been to the doctor and had the HSG dye test which checks to see if the Fallopian tubes are open along with every other known fertility test. Her doctor told her that she was very healthy and able to get pregnant. Her only problem was that one of her Fallopian tubes was blocked. This is probably the result of a chlamydia infection she had gotten as a teenager. The doctor was not concerned at all. He sent her home and told her to just keep trying to get pregnant.
She screamed when she said, “But that was 2 years ago and here I sit with no baby. I can’t take this anymore. I need help”.
I had to find a way to calm her down. Stress is terrible when women want to get pregnant. I had to start by pointing out the positive side of her situation. I tried to reassure her by telling her that there really is good news in her frustrating story. She is at the peak of her fertility at her age which is fantastic. She is also having a regular period so her hormones are in perfect shape. The best news is that she still had one Fallopian tube that is still open so her doctor is right. She REALLY is able to get pregnant.
She wanted me to give her Chinese herbs to open her blocked Fallopian tube. But is this really the fasted way for her to get pregnant? It takes at least 3 months for the Chinese herbs to address the Fallopian tube problem. The herbs that have this wonderful effect are very powerful but unfortunately, she could not try to get while she took those herbs.
The herbs that will clear the tubes might clear a fertilized egg out of the uterus too. Since this woman is so healthy and her cycle is so regular and she has one open Fallopian tube there is a good chance she could get pregnant while taking these herbs. So she would have to PREVENT pregnancy by having her partner use a condom during the time of the month when she is ovulating.
I had another plan for her. Rather than give her herbs to open the tubes I suggested I make her an herbal formula to calm her stress and at the same time I would walk her through how to properly follow her cycle to make sure she was having sex on the right days.
She told me that she had been using an app on her phone to see when she was ovulating. When she saw that she was in “fertile days” she was having sex every other day. Her husband was a long haul truck driver and some months they would only be able to have sex one time during her “fertile days”.
I told her that this would not work as a matter of fact this was NOT working. Instead of using the app on her phone I wanted her to use the Clear Blue Easy Ovulation kit. The one that shows a happy face on the test strip. This is the easiest and least stressful kit to use.
I told her that she needed to start using the kit the first thing in the morning starting on cycle day 12. OMG, she didn’t know when cycle day 12 was for her. That is a big problem. Every woman must know how to count her cycle days.
I told her that “Cycle day 1” is always the first day of every woman’s period. We do not care how many days long the period lasts. We only care about the first day. That is cycle day one. I told her to count each day until she gets to 12. That would be cycle day 12.
She should use the kit first thing in the morning starting on cycle day 12 until she sees the “happy face” on this kit. This would be the indication that she is about to ovulate. That is the very best day to have sex to get pregnant.
She will have sex the day she sees the positive on the kit and the next 3 days in a row. That would be 4 days in a row.
She also has to calm down and relax because half of the months when she is ovulating she cannot get pregnant. She cannot get pregnant the months that she is ovulating on the side with the blocked tube.
I explained to her that even though she has been trying to get pregnant for 2 years there were only 12 days in all that time when it was even possible to get pregnant. Only one egg is released each month. It only lasts 24 hours before the body reabsorbs it if the sperm does not get to it first. That means only 12 eggs are released in a whole year. If one tube is blocked then there will only be 6 days in the whole year when it is possible to get pregnant.
I have come to believe that trying to get pregnant is actually really a “waiting game”. Most of the time you are just waiting. First, you are waiting for ovulation and then you are waiting for your period to come and then back to waiting for ovulation again.
I felt like the best thing I could do for this very frustrated woman was help her to calm down. I gave her a wonderful Chinese herbal formula to help her with this. I also helped her follow her cycle to make sure she was doing everything exactly right.
4 months later, which was today, she called to tell me she got a positive on her pregnancy test. We both cried with joy and relief.
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